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Dementia Endured

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Mike Donohue is a brave man. Courageous, direct, and bold, his blog energizes readers with a passion for action. Dementia Endured gives a hint in the title as to the nature of this talented writer: he will endure. And with a personality like Mike’s, it’s easy to believe that he shall overcome, as well!

His life experiences are opened to the reader, and his journey recovering from alcoholism to adjusting to Alzheimer’s holds its own fascination for visitors to his site. Mike’s strength and determination will remind readers that dementias are one area in which it’s best not to hold any punches.

THIS BLOG IS ABOUT MY JOURNEY FROM AA TO AD.

I have survived alcoholism from which
I recovered thirty six years ago then
Alzheimer's disease with which I was
diagnosed nearly five years ago. Both
have had profound consequence. They
are associated, one leading to the other.

I write about the experience in a book
click on the title to go to it or read more
about it in the column to the right

Monday, December 6, 2010

The Fear, Stigma and Shame of Alzheimer's Disease


 It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to answer why to the question posed by Angil Tarach-Ritchey in her commentary on her Alzheimer’s Reading Room commentary The Fear, Stigma and Shame of Alzheimer's Disease. Click on the title or on Archive to read it.


Angil, operating a business known as Visiting Angels, offered free memory screening on November 16th which was National Memory Screening Day  as set  by the Alzheimer's Foundation of America. No one came to the party. She checked other agencies offering the same service, a simple memory screening test, the might be suggestive of developing Alzheimer’s Disease (AD). No one came to any of them. Why? She asked.

So why on earth would one want a screen?

If you don’t have it, don’t want to have it, don’t know you have it, why on God’s green earth would you want to upset that apple cart and find out.

The stigma of AD is overwhelming. The fact of AD is sufficiently overpowering in the absolute change wrought over your life and that of your loved ones. It ain’t no fun once you have to deal with it. It is a deal breaker that covers the rest of your life.

The limitations it produces are massive. They are functional limitations, life style limitations and that but starts the list. These are the limitations enforced from within when you have the disease and must cope with it.

The limitations enforced by society are even greater.  Job security floats out the window, economic stability is already out the door. This just starts another long list. That list is finished by the benign isolation that sets in hurrying the afflicted along the path of decline.

Benign neglect results from many factors which starts yet another list. This list is topped by abandonment by friends and family. They don’t mean to but not knowing how to handle it put handling it off to another day that never quite comes.

A second isolating factor is the system of support as it now is. If you are still functional, there is little out there for you unless produced by a caretaker with the time and the resource to provide it. Lacking that you stay at home alone isolated, dejected and depressed by it all!

Stopping the list there, in no way exhausting it, the person afflicted with AD still able to  function has little to no help but to get away from the knowledge of what in fact is coming down. That leads to an attitude of “let’s get on with it, and get it over; this is no way to live.”

So who wants to know vacation is over early this year and you are enrolled in hell for the next school term?

So much effort is spent on organizing and raising the money to find the cure. Is this good, bad, I do not choose judge. I do however suggest if half the effort were directed to helping folks cope with AD before they are fodder for the Warehouse (aka) Nursing Home we might get a better response to memory screening.

If AD did not present itself in our culture as something to be shunned, as stigma, by the sense that life is over because of it, one might be more willing to deal with AD as a possibility in life.

The functional state can be prolonged if given appropriate response and appropriate support. I but reiterate something I and many have said too often so will not know. So much in terms of active support to enhance one’s quality of life and clarity of cognition can be provided that is not now provided.

The support structure is overburdened by care required by later stages and by effort to find the cure. It is not making the time, expending the resources or exercising its ability to address the special needs for maintaining functionality in the Early Stages of AD as much as it might.

We are making a massive health and cultural mistake in letting this need slip by our attention and activity span. If addressed it will make Early Stage Early Diagnosis and Memory Screening attractive. It will do so in recognizing the need of and the means to treat AD at the earliest possible time.

This accomplishes two goals if not an entirely new list of goals. Early detection affords the likelihood of doing something to stem the rush into the warehousing stage of AD and thereby save the community and individual cost of it. It will also increase quality of life and ease the burden of AD for the one with it and the ones around it.

As it is now, hell, who wants to know!

2 comments:

  1. Mike,
    I stumbled upon your response to my article "The Fear, Stigma, and Shame of Alzheimer's Disease"
    I really appreciate your perspective, so thank you! I believe the thoughts, opinions, and perspective of those affected by AD are imperative for empathy, and providing caregivers the ability to understand so they provide better treatment and care of patients and loved ones with AD.
    Only through empathy will we decrease the stigma, decrease the shame, and increase advocacy.
    I pray an effective treatment or cure will come for you and the millions of individuals and families affected by Alzheimer's.
    God Bless,
    Angil

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  2. Bravo! Mike. You sure say it like it is. It is discouraging when the person with dementia can not get the help they need without a caregiver. I am not single. I do have a caregiver who is not interested in participating in anykind of support group. Those who are single or do not have a caregiver..persay, are excluded from any type of support group.
    Thank you Mike for all you do for those with dementia. Keep saying it like it is.

    Sandy

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